Mama J on August 26th, 2009

I do encourage comments and friendly debate on this blog, but I have to admit I was surprised to receive a comment this summer from a reader nicknamed Daisy:  ”I came here for comfort, and instead find an outrageous display of selfishness.” 
Daisy, who is herself grieving the loss of her adult son, felt that the [...]

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Mama J on April 8th, 2009

Last Wednesday I blogged about anger, and the very same day another of my stepparent colleagues also blogged about stepparent anger.  Are we affected by the upcoming full moon, or is this a recurring theme families need to pay attention to?  What do you think? 
I’ve been focusing on ways I can “come down” from feeling angry [...]

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Mama J on April 1st, 2009

Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.   -Ambrose Bierce 
There are three cardinal rules I have to follow when I feel angry at a member of my stepfamily.  I’m writing about this because I have blown it before.  No real good comes out of a screaming match [...]

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Mama J on January 21st, 2009

If you are a stepfamily member, you might really appreciate the
opportunity I’ll point you toward today.  One of my colleagues, Jacque
Fletcher, and another stepmother, Erin Erickson, have created The
Stepfamily Letter Project.  This is a blog where any stepfamily
member can anonymously write a letter to another stepfamily member. 
The letter can be heartfelt, joyful, angry, sad, or any [...]

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